5 Ways To Keep Calm and Carry On

“You can’t always control what happens, but you can control how you react.”

This is always something I think of when I find myself getting upset over something small. But emotions are emotions and sometimes things just piss you off.

Five ways to not let emotions get the best of you:

1. Acknowledge how you feel. See it, feel it, let your face get hot and that knot in your throat stay there for a little and just feel it. Accept whatever comes up and it becomes much easier to let it go.

2. Focus on your breath. Notice when your breathing becomes restricted. Deepen your breath.

3. Express how you feel AFTER you cool off. Never ever express yourself in the heat of the moment.

4. Take a walk outside. Get some fresh air. Appreciate nature. Soak up the beauty and good energy around you.

5. Find gratitude. Think of three things that either make you happy, bring you peace, or give you that amazing feel good feeling!

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After all of that then go back to whatever it is that seriously effing pissed you off and chances are it wont be all that bad anymore.

Having complete control over your emotions may sound like some wonderfully divine buddha quality, (especially when some bitch cuts you off in rush hour traffic) but following these five steps will help you keep calm and carry on.

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Om, peace, ahimsa.

xoxo

Shelsea

Push Through Fear

Fear. That ugly thing that destroys us. It shreds our dreams, holds us back, and prevents us from living a life we really love.

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Sometimes it’s comforting to hold onto fear. It gives us an excuse to stay nestled in our little safety zone. 

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What would happen if we dropped fear and just lived? If we acknowledged it, and then pushed through it…

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Eventually that fear will disappear and you will realize that things aren’t so bad as you terrifyingly envisioned them to be. 

ImageEverything worth experiencing comes with a little bit of fear. It’s up to you if you want fear to hold you back, or if you want to push through it and live the life you’ve always imagined.

xoxo

Shelsea

 

 

Guilty Happiness

Do you ever feel guilty for your own happiness?

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When bad things happen in this world like the terrible occurrences in Boston, do you find yourself being so empathetic that you feel guilty living your normal happy life?

This is what happens to me. This is why I can’t watch the news, or read the paper.

I’ve always found myself being overly empathetic.

It is great to be able to connect with people in this way, but at the same time it’s so important to stay grounded.

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Doing your own little part to help victims, like attending a fundraising yoga class or meditating and sending peaceful energy to those who were  involved can help you stay grounded, while still staying connected.

Living your own joyful life should not feel yucky because others are suffering.

Instead we should live in this joy so that we can spread good energy, not fear to those around us.

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What do you do to stay grounded during times of upheaval?

xoxo

Shelsea

Little Things

It’s the little things.

The little things are those that really matter. 

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The little things that we sometimes barely notice, are those that make such a difference in our lives. 

A few days ago my cute little dog scratched me right in the eye. I lost vision in my eye for the rest of the evening, and woke up in serious pain. Losing something that was so small, yet so big- was eye opening. 

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The little things like having clear vision or being free from pain are those in which we don’t always think about or fully appreciate. 

Unfortunately, most of the time it’s not until we really lose something that we fully appreciate what we once had.

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Appreciate what you have now, for it’s those little things that are the big things.

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If we fully appreciate what we have on a whole new level, what would change?

What would you be more likely to pursue or accomplish?

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xoxo

Shelsea 

 

Know Your Worth

Do you know your worth?

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Do you put yourself in situations that you know in your heart are not good for you, but you still roll with it anyway?

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I’ve had two conversations in the last 24 hours with girlfriends who are putting up with SHIT. They allow themselves to be in situations with men who treat them poorly. They give and give and give…Yet they get nothing in return. Both of them are blind to the fact that these men are just not that into them. They let things slide because they claim that they are “not taking things seriously”…It’s just fun and games. Yet these fun games cause them tears. I tried to explain to both of them that they are using valuable energy. Wasting this energy and spending it in places that only cause heartache in the end.

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What causes us to stay in situations that are no longer serving us? We all do it. Whether it’s a job that drains us or a relationship that is unhealthy, we have all been there. If we knew how valuable our energy was would we be more careful spending it in places that are undeserving?

If we let those situations go…If we simply walked away from them and moved on to spending our energy in richer places, how would our lives change?

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Pay close attention to the people and situations you spend your energy on. Spend more energy on the things that light you up, and less on those that drain you.  Remember, you are worth it.

xoxo

Shelsea

 

Confessions of a Yogi

I woke up fairly early this morning for a Sunday. Feeling motivated (not hungover) and ready to get sweaty on my mat, I headed to a local hot yoga studio….

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I’m a yoga instructor. I drink. I eat meat. I sometimes fear that I will fall on my face and break my nose in handstand. 

While in class today I became really aware of the thoughts running through my head. Yeah, yeah… Your mind is supposed to be completely clear. Bull. Shit. 

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Here are some of the thoughts that came up in my Yoga practice….

Yoga Instructor: “Inhale, Exhale…”

My Brain: “Man, I am so glad I’m not hungover today.”

Yoga Instructor: “Bend over, let your head relax.”

My Brain: “Is he looking at my butt?!”

Yoga Instructor: “Engage your core, stay strong.”

My Brain: “Ahhh this fucking sucks, my shoulders are burning!!!”

Yoga Instructor: “Okay, we are going to help each other out next so find a partner.”

My Brain: “Seriously, this partner yoga shit, really?! I just wanna be by myself, in my zone…on my mat. Ugh who’s gonna be my partner…She looks normal…Okay, this isn’t so bad.”

Yoga Instructor: “Move through this flow…”

My Brain: “Mmmm I can’t wait to get home. I’m gonna make some turkey bacon, and scrambled eggs.”

Yoga Instructor: “Inhale, Exhale…”

My Brain: “Why does bacon smell soooooo goood?! I wish I was inhaling the smell of bacon right now.”

Yoga Instructor: “Now stretch your legs down to the bottom of the mat..”

My Brain: “Hmm this yoga instructor is kinda cute, he probably loves his job. There are so many chicks in this class.”

Yoga Instructor: “Close your eyes, relax..Time for Savasana.”

My Brain: “Finally. Ah I feel so good. This is why I do yoga. Ah yessss.”

So there it is…. My brain is just as active as yours. Yoga Instructors aren’t all perfect. We don’t all live in caves and meditate for 50 hours at a time.

It’s natural for your mind to wander. And it’s always fun to laugh at your thoughts as they come up.  

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What do you think about in yoga class? 

xoxo

Shelsea

Acceptance

You know that unsettling feeling when you are in a situation that you want so badly to change….

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What would happen if you found a way to fully accept whatever that is?

As I taught a yoga class the other night I saw a woman get so frustrated with herself because she couldn’t physically get all the way into a pose. She was huffing and puffing and her face was scrunched up like she just put a bitter lemon in her mouth.

It was so hard to watch. If she accepted where her body was in that moment, she would have felt so much better.

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When we let go of the things we can’t change, we also let go of frustration and tension.

We gain power.

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We are much better off creating a space of full acceptance than running around trying to change everything or pushing our bodies into positions that can leave us injured.

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Acceptance is freeing. It’s a state of liberation where things no longer feel stiff or rigid.

When we let things be….

That is full acceptance.

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xoxo

Shelsea

Waves

Can you recall a dream that was so powerful that it stays in your mind for a few days, weeks, or even months after?

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I’ve had this intense reoccurring dream where I’m walking on the beach and a HUGE 20 foot wave comes crashing over me.

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Water rushes over my body, yet I’m able to stand still. I dream that I am under water for just a few seconds and then all of a sudden I’m standing there on a calm shore again.

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When the wave is coming at me I have this sense of fear and panic, and then afterwards I feel refreshed, thankful, and powerful.

Life comes and goes in waves.

No matter what rushes towards you, it is so important to stay grounded. You may lose your breath or feel fear from time to time but know that even the biggest, strongest waves subside.

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Remember to soak up those calm peaceful times. Enjoy every moment for exactly what it is. Those big, scary waves only make you stronger.

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xoxo

Shelsea

Embrace Change

Do you ever have that feeling where life just spins you around in circles and your left trying to grip on to something?

Things that were once settled and comfortable can get shaken up, and change happens.

ImageGetting grounded again after change is always difficult. Whether it’s the end of something or the beginning of something new, it’s always tough to find that smooth road of peace and balance.

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Change can either be a scary, unpredictable thing or it can be an exciting adventure.

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Change may take you closer to the things that your heart truly desires.

Change can mean getting to know yourself and what you want on a deeper level.

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Although change can sometimes be slightly uncomfortable, what fun would it be if life were predictably the same every single day?

We would never learn, or grow, or have any excitement in our lives.

So when you get to the turn in the road where things change, throw your hands up and just enjoy the ride.

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xoxo

Shelsea

A Recipe for Lasting Love

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If you could create a healthy, yummy recipe for love, what would it be?

Everyone has different requirements for what will feed and nourish them in just the right way.

Here are a few of mine:

Good Communication. For me, this is the biggest part. Communicating in a raw, authentic way. Not holding anything back, but also thinking before you speak. This means not only being able to express yourself, and having the ability to do this with compassion. Also, being able to listen, and understand. Communicating directly from the heart at all times.

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Humor. Laugh at yourself. Laugh at each other. Laugh when you fall. Laugh when you make a mistake. Make jokes. Creating a light, fun energy makes everyone happy.

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Adventure. Experiencing new exciting things will keep things fresh. Go to new places, try different food, do things that scare you. This will allow you to look back at things you’ve done together, creating a strong bond.

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Consideration. Working as a team means always considering your partner. Even the smallest considerations can mean so much. Consideration means doing things that will enhance the relationship. Acting from the heart.

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These are just a few of the things that can help enhance any relationship.

I think the most important thing is knowing that it wont always turn out perfect. As long as you can keep trying and learning from every situation.

What would your recipe look like?

Id love to hear your responses.

xoxo

Shelsea